First, let me explain that the title of this article is not intended to pretend that there is something deceptive, like a weapon or even all that is secret in what I tell you. My intention is to get your attention, to save you from other suppliers of “get your previous” systems, which give all sorts of bad advice and lure people with promises of tricks, secrets and magical methods.
It’s not that I have any methods, tools or even what you would call “secrets” to share with you. The method of solving a problem is indeed a kind of “weapon” in the sense that a weapon is a tool, so my whole method is a kind of toolkit or “arsenal”. I would not mislead you. It's just that I want to make it clear that you just can’t see the reconciliation process with your ex in battle.
This is not a healthy foundation for a relationship, so he just is not going to work And no amount of tricks or manipulative tactics will make someone love you. If you want, I can not help you. But if you are looking for a program of realistic advice from a professional with thirty years of proven experience of returning couples together, you are in the right place.
Now that I’m clear, here’s my secret "1": you already have the most powerful weapon you need to help you win your ex. However, you are not fully aware of your existence and how to use them, therefore, your “secret” nature.
They say that knowledge is power. In this case, nothing could be more correct. This weapon is just a field of knowledge. I will briefly describe what it is and why everyone has the opportunity to help you or cancel you:
1) Self-knowledge. Instead of trying to change your ex, you must first look for self-knowledge that will give you strength in your search. Find out who you are, without relationship, heal wounds, restore your self-esteem and raise your physical and mental health. This is the No. 1 weapon you have at your disposal: make yourself attractive again to your ex. If you do not, you are likely to fail.
2) Knowledge of your Ex. You know what makes them and what turns them off. You know the intimate of them. Do not give in to revenge, press buttons to get attention, or try to make them jealous. Do not say that they are behind your back. This is a very common behavior in your situation, and there are some so-called experts who will encourage you to participate in such antics.
Do not give up. This knowledge is a dangerous weapon that can do the most damage to your cause. Use it in a positive manner to help you say it, doing nice and attractive things, not trying too hard or being someone you dislike. In addition, as you go through the process of reconciliation, you must be careful to learn something new about your ex that you haven’t paid attention to before, and then let him or her know that you noticed it.
3) Knowledge of your relationship. Contrary to what a popular book recommends, you simply cannot revive a relationship and expect it to flourish and grow without revising what went wrong. It amazes me that such advice is given. I understand why they want you to avoid the ancient history - because they are afraid of the minefield that exists there, and because they do not know how to send people through it.
But for thirty years, as a practicing therapist, I have never seen this work, because the minefield carried by under the carpet will surely come again. Only fear makes this knowledge difficult to solve. In fact, when faced with problems and processing them, constructively creates an unbreakable bond.
This is just a brief introduction to the knowledge you already have at your disposal to help you get your ex back, or to preserve your relationship or marriage. My goal is to help you use your knowledge wisely so that it does not explode on your face - or, even worse, from someone else.
